Wednesday, June 10, 2009
Week 4 Eureka Moment
I've recently really gotten into watching the show John and Kate plus 8. I was watching one of the reruns the other night with one of my friends and the episode showed something that is commonly thought of as a "womans job". In this particular episode, John was going to cook dinner for the entire family. Kate was so nervous and kept freaking out saying she didn't want him in 'her' kitchen. Many people always think that the mother/wife should cook the meals. I know in my family my mother usually cooks our meals. It's very rare for my father to do so. Many other families I know are the same way, the women cook the meals. I thought it was a really nice episode when John cooked for the family. I think more men should cook for their families. And I also feel that the wives should allow them to without making comments. I think it's nice to take turns in the kitchen because that's how families should work. Everyone should work together. And who knows, maybe the men can actually cook better then the women!
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Wow this is a great post because it's so true!! I had never thought about this till I read your post and thought wow I so here my mom saying that all the time! I think that both men and women should share the kitchen as well, both need to put effort into cooking the dinners. A guy shouldn't expect top have dinner put on the table every day and every time he gets home from work. Yeah the famous excuse will be " I worked all day and I am tired". I think that you are right when people always assume the woman should cook the food in the house and every time the guy wants to cook they make the comment they hope the house does not burn down. This is probably why when you date a girl they always seem to ask do you cook? and what do you cook? I guess women really look for a man to cook, they see it as brownie points :)
ReplyDeleteJohn and Kate Plus 8 is NOTORIOUS for making men look like helpless bums. From Kate's side remarks during interviews to the skewed images you see of John doing nothing. It really is very backwards in that sense. You would think that a wholesome family show like that would make a better effort to show things for how they really are-crazy and hectic for everyone. If you ever catch an episode where they do show John spending time with the family, it's a beautiful thing. He is very capable of getting the kids dressed, feeding them, even putting them to bed, and things in the house still function safely and normally. It's crazy how tv really keeps John in the underdog light!
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed this post because it made me laugh. I can't tell you how made times my mother will be cooking something, my dad will go into the kitchen trying to sample things, and my mom will jokingly hit him with a wooden spoon saying hey! outta my kitchen! My dads not much of a cook, so my mom does the cooking. It's normal to me. However I recently stayed at my boyfriend's house, where his dad is the chef of the family. It was funny to see how they make jokes about how is dad's the cook rather than his mom. His mother joked about how she isn't much of a cook, which is the only reason she married her husband, his ability to cook. Clearly just a joke, but rather funny.
ReplyDeleteI have to agree with you that in most families I know including mine the woman does do all of the cooking. I can remember when growing up that on rare occasions my father would cook but only because my mom had to go to a school or a church function. If cooking involved the grill this was a job that my dad and even today my husband takes great pride in doing. My mom would have never cooked on the grill because it’s thought of as a man’s job. However in my own home it’s not uncommon for me to turn on the gas grill and throw something on or load the charcoal, sprinkle on a little lightening fluid and light the match on the old grill we call big Betty. My husband was amazed that I could light a grill but like I told him when you grow up in a house with all girls; your father (at least mine) teaches you all the manly things because he does not have a son. My dad’s reasoning was that he never wanted us girls to have to depend solely on a man for anything which is why we know how to also change the oil in a car, change a flat tire and fix minor things around the house.
ReplyDeleteIn my husbands case he grew up in a house of all boys (eight to be exact). All of the boys can cook, sew, wash clothes and clean. I had asked my mother-in-law why she taught them all those things. Her response was that until a wife came along they needed to be able to do these things for themselves. I give my husband credit he does cook from time to time but for the most part it falls on my shoulders and I don’t mind since he washes his own clothes and folds everyone’s in the house (I hate doing these things with a passion).
Here’s another food for thought: One of my co-workers sent me an email a while back that was talking about men cooking on the grill. One thing that it said is that why is it that when men cook on the grill everyone wants to give credit to him for the food tasting so good. The truth is that the credit should go to the woman because she is the one who prepares and season’s it; the man just throw it on the grill and flips it until its done. While he’s cooking on the grill he has the luxury of drinking a beer while the woman is sweating in the kitchen trying to get the rest of the meal done. This is so true!
Ashley, I too watch John and Kate plus 8. I love the show because John and Kate have eight kids and they are really good at teaching them how to adjust to different situations that they will someday be confronted with. You must admit that the responsibility is enormous, but they make it seem effertless. I would not have a strand of hair left on my head if they were mine.I have a puppy and it gets hairy sometimes.
ReplyDeleteIf I were kate I would welcome help in the kitchen.
Ashley, have you noticed how many men have cooking shows and are writing books on the subject. Men are beginning to enjoy the kitchen also.I believe the gender roles are reversing in the household today due to the fact that it's time for men to find out what women have been doing all these years for them.I believe after walking in a women's shoes for awhile men will have a greater appreciation for us.
While growing up my mom always cooked dinner everynight for the family and cooked most of the time. On the weekends when my dad had off work my dad would cook the family breakfast to give my mom some time "off". And I always thought this way.
ReplyDeleteBut now my boyfriend LOVES to cook and when I first found out I thought it was so wierd. For Christmas 2 years ago his mom bought him cooking lessons and my first thought was "Your gay". But he loves them, and hes still been taking them on and off for a while now. And he broke my thought process of traditional views in the kitchen. ( I think it helps that he is a really good cook) And a few months ago we took a class togehter on how to make pizza and it was so much fun and I really dont know why I ever thought that way before.